Mommy Stuff

So here's one I stole from Redbook..

10 Things Never to Say to a Stay At Home Mom

1. When the kids are older, do you think you'll get a real job?

2. How June Cleaver of you!

3. Oh, so you don't work?

4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?

5. All day with your kids? I can't even imagine.

6. I'm jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn't have to work either.

7. What do you do all day, anyway?

8. I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever wasted money on a college degree.

9. That explains why your son is so clingy!

10. Weird. I assumed your house would be superclean.

—Candy Kirby of thelaughingstork.com, with help from her Twitter followers and friends


10 Things Never to Say to a Working Mom

1. It must be hard missing all those special moments every day.

2. I suppose it's smart that you're working. You know, in case your husband leaves you some day.

3. I'm surprised you went back to work. Your husband seems so successful.

4. It's cute when they call your nanny "Mama."

5. I just love my kids too much to leave them during the day.

6. Did you see Dateline? The one with the hidden camera in the day care?

7. I could never let someone else raise my children. But that's just me!

8. I hated my mom because she was never home after school like everyone else's mom.

9. You must feel so guilty.

10. I wish I were as laid-back as you and could just let the housework go.

—Liz Gumbinner of Mom-101.com, with help from her blog readers

Now, since I work part time and stay at home part time I completely relate to these. In fact, I think dear husband came home one day and asked "What did you do all day anyway?" I seethed siliently knowing it was not meant to cut so deeply. I can honestly say I have been on the receiving end of many of these questions and comments.

I prefer to use my blog as a learning and sharing tool; A means to document my life and be inspired by others. In the blog world there is a LARGE support group for mommies and without advice from 2 lovely ladies from ILYMTC & 5K's I would probably have lost my mind. I often read experiences of mothers being questioned for their practices and parenting styles. WHY? I just don't get it. Meg and Erin are 2 wonderful mommies with adorable children who recently wrote some things which you should read. I just adore them both and applaud their attitudes and honesty. I am so trying to be less judgemental while balancing the whole guilt factor in my own life. Being the best mommy is not the same for every child. There is no "perfect" mold of a mother. I believe each child needs its own set of rules and in fact different children thrive in different environments.

If you're a woman please check out what these ladies have to say, perhaps even leave a word of encouragement. There is nothing more inspring than being lifted up by others :)